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1/4 of a Century +1


My husband and I recently celebrated our 26th Wedding Anniversary. With eyes sparkling, I smile, though with shocking reality that 1986 was nearly thirty years ago. The world is pendulating and spinning faster, we are all aging in acceleration, I am certain of it. Overall, without the dramatics, sweet astonishment that The Lord chose this path of connection for me and a man whom I have known since high school. It is a rariety these days for folks to have been married as long as we. If you are one of the very select few, especially those who went through the “Divorce Generation” of the 1970’s and beyond, consider yourselves blessed beyond years if you are still married to your first husband or wife (no judgement if you are not) statistics clearly back me up. As for myself, I believe he was created for me, and I for him, there are no questionings that GOD put us together, the reasons are perfectly clear why the two of us became one and stayed that way.

I am often asked, “What is your secret to a marriage that has held together for over twenty-six years?” I have some answers for you friends, may I be candid?

1. I prayed for a good husband, long before he entered my life. Someone that would be ” just for me ” and I, ” just for him ”

2. Keep GOD at the center of everything between yourselves as Husband and Wife.

3. Remember and Keep the Vows that you made on your Wedding Day.

4. Talk! TALK! Talk! – Communication over PlayStation. ( Sorry Gamers )

5. Take care of each other when ill, remember the vow, for better, or worse? Sometimes you will have to play Nursemaid/Doctor because the other is sick. Get over your repugnance and tend to the other, no matter how gross it may be. Besides you probably saw nastier things in your 7th Grade Science Lab. Be an adult and you will be respected and loved all the more for it.

6. Do not lie to one another.

7. Forgive and let anything in the past – go.

8. Your spouse is more important than anything else, including your birthfamily, children and friends.

9. A Hug and Kiss a Day keeps Divorce away – okay, I had to make a rhyme out of that.

10. Remember important dates, anniversaries, birthdates, and make them special, go out of your way to do so. Make them memorable. We are only given so much time with each other on this earth. Make the most out of every precious moment.

11. Read the Bible together.

12. Pray Together.

13. Tell each other that ” I LOVE YOU ” every single day, even if you are angry, let it be with a “I’m angry right now but I love you.” Ending that with “you jerk!” is optional, tee-hee.

14. NEVER, EVER, BUY A CHEAP GIFT FOR THE ONE YOU LOVE. PURCHASING AN ENGAGEMENT RING THAT TURNS A FINGER GREEN WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN – DON’T BE THAT PERSON, SERIOUSLY USE YOUR HEAD – REAL DIAMONDS, REAL GOLD – Rule of thumb – THREE MONTHS SALARY – BUY NEW! – DON’T GO “GHETTO” and go for QUALITY – nuff’ said.

15. Have Compassion.

16. Sometimes you need to look at BOTH sides of whatever situation you are dealing with, seek Christ, The Bible and Prayer in those dark moments.

17. Save up funds because those least expected rainy days will come up. Don’t be the people who constantly borrows from others or “Robs Peter to pay Paul.” Stand on your own feet. One of the biggest arguments that couples have is over money, save it up and do not overspend. Find something else to do for fun instead of eating out. Restaurants are a big money zapper. Learn to cook and do it yourself. Make it romantic and add music, even if you do not care for the style. You would not be hearing Heavy Metal at a Five Star restaurant. Try Easy Listening, this music creates ambience, though keep it down low. And don’t forget the candles!

18. Laugh every day as a couple, have private time with just the two of you, after all in the end, the children will be gone, who will you be with? Your partner should be your best and closest friend. Children are there for only a brief moment in time.

19. Avoid doing things you know will upset your husband or wife. If you are the type that makes a sandwhich without cleaning up, and you know that is forbidden (and gross), stop your negative action and fix before they become an issue. Otherwise the spouse thinks you are not only lazy but also having attention seeking behavior. Be an adult.

20. Learn to say that you are sorry, look them in the eye and mean it. Change the past so you can focus your blissful future, forever. Never give up!

Reeds Jewelers

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